Do I need to follow wedding
There are no set rules. It is your wedding, so you do
as you choose.
Do I have control over what is
said in my ceremony?
Absolutely. You have full control over what is said in
your ceremony. You may be as involved as you want in
the creation of the ceremony, or you may merely approve
suggestions developed by me.
Are we required to meet with you? No.
I do not require a meeting. I would be glad to meet
with you and your fiancÚ to begin planning your big day, if
this will make you feel more comfortable about your
officiant choice or wedding planning. Often, though,
planning in-person meetings is not always easy – especially
in the months leading up to the Big Day, with so many other
details to finalize. As a result, I’m also willing to
“meet” by email and phone.
Is premarital counseling required? No. I do not
offer counseling, but you may wish to arrange counseling
with a qualified professional.
Do you pass judgments on if people
should get married? No. When couples
are in love and truly believe they are meant for each other,
then it is their choice to get married. I do not impose
arbitrary requirements or pass judgments.
What areas of Indiana do you primarily
serve? I primarily serve Central and South-Central
Indiana from Indianapolis and surrounding areas and south,
but I am willing to travel anywhere.
Are you available on short notice?
Yes. Most weddings are well planned in advance, but I
can be available on short notice, if necessary, providing I
am available. Please reserve your wedding date and time
What do your prices include?
Prices include customization of the wedding ceremony,
guidance and assistance with planning the wedding ceremony,
and in most cases (unless prohibited by distance) at least
one in-person meeting and as many telephone or email
discussions as you need to be comfortable with the wedding
How early do
you arrive for a ceremony? I arrive roughly 30
minutes early for wedding ceremonies.
If I am providing sound for the ceremony, I will
arrive 60 minutes prior to ceremony.
How long are your ceremonies? They
typically last up to 20 minutes, depending on the degree to
which you customize your ceremony. My ceremonies include all
the essential elements of a beautiful wedding ceremony.
In my experience, ceremonies that last much more than 20
minutes tend to lose focus. You want your guests to
remember your ceremony for how beautiful and personalized it
was, not for how long-winded it was.
What do you wear? I generally wear a
conservative black suit, with a similarly subdued tie. I
dress to blend into the background of the wedding, so that
the bride and groom are clearly the focal point of the
rehearsals? I will attend your rehearsal whenever
possible. Schedule your rehearsal early so I can be
Do you attend the
rehearsal dinner or reception? No. While I am
deeply honored to officiate your wedding ceremony, I believe
that the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception is
celebration of family and friends. I therefore do not attend
incorporate elements from another culture or religion?
Yes. I find the wedding customs and traditions of
other cultures and religions fascinating, and would be happy
to learn about, and incorporate, appropriate elements into
your wedding ceremony. Please feel free to discuss this with
What are travel and
time fees, really? There are no additional
time or travel fees.
My cost is my cost and I guarantee that to you in a
If you are
not available, do you have other Officiants you recommend?
Yes, there are other Officiants whom I can recommend, should
I be unavailable.
happens if you cannot make it to the ceremony? I do
my best to arrive early to every wedding ceremony. However,
I realize that bad weather, injuries, car problems or other
unavoidable occurrences might conceivably delay or prevent
my arrival at the wedding ceremony. I will do whatever I can
reasonably do to persevere in my efforts to get to the
wedding ceremony. If it appears that I will be unable to get
to the wedding ceremony, I will do my best to find a
replacement officiant who can perform the ceremony at the
same time and for the same fee as I was contracted with.
What about unity ceremony
supplies, do you provide them? No. There are
supplies in numerous specialty stores and on the internet.
Colored sand for unity sand ceremonies can also be purchased
at craft stores.
anyone do a vow renewal? Vow renewals are wonderful
events that not only honor the commitment between two people
but also the lives they have made together and the community
of friends and family that has grown up around those lives.
Vow renewal can include stories about memorable moments in
the couple’s lives, or about their children or their
parents. I spend a considerable amount of time obtaining the
necessary research for the event.